The start of a new year equals resolutions for most people – But does that mean putting unnecessary pressure on yourself? Are you setting yourself up to fail? Or, is it an essential part of self-improvement?
Why I’m not bothering with resolutions this year:
The start of a new year is always reflective for me. I look back at what I’ve achieved and as much as I hate to admit it, it’s also a time for regret.
I’m a little fed up of being bombarded with this obsession of creating a ‘New You’ when each January arrives. New Year’s Resolution after New Year’s Resolution being made, then forgotten about and thus never being achieved. As someone who’s constantly too hard on myself, I look at failure to achieve a resolution as some kind of dreadful defeat. I’m also a tad cynical when it comes to reinventing or regenerating ourselves at the turn of each new year anyway. It’s impossible to do that. You’re not Doctor Who. Or James Bond.
This year, I’m taking a stand. The only promise I’m making to myself is that I’ll try and remain as healthy and happy as possible. That’s all that matters really, isn’t it?
I’m going to try and be more optimistic, to try and look after myself a little more and also to try and shut that critical, anxious voice in my head up – Worrying is something that plagues my life and I’m going to at least attempt to calm down. Whether it’s worrying about what people think of me, what I look like, where I’m going in life or whether I’ve got the money to do what I want in life. There’s always something to worry about. That time spent worrying could be better spent doing something else that’s far more productive.
The main things we should all be focusing on are health and happiness. That’s it. Not having a ‘bikini beach body’, or attempting every stupid exercise DVD going, or stopping yourself from having the odd choccy biscuit.
Why not focus on making one small change each day? Like being more grateful for what we already have in life and taking steps to accepting ourselves more? Let’s just concentrate on being as good as we possibly can be, and bettering ourselves as much as we can, without putting ourselves under ridiculous amounts of pressure to reach that unattainable level of perfection that society expects of us.